31-Day Devotional

Hello Everyone! I know it’s been a while but I’ve been preparing something that is beyond my wildest dreams. I have created my very own 31-day devotional called, The S(on)s Summer Affection. I would love for you all to complete it throughout the month of May.

God has blessed me tremendously to be able to do this, and trust when I say it’s none of me but all of Him. I pray that He truly shines through this devotional and that you see the pureness of Him in every word. God wants to do something amazing going into this upcoming season and in order to receive it, we must be in position.

I love you all. Be blessed!

Echoes of an empty room

A few weeks ago I was sitting in my room listening to a small sermon on Instagram live. I happen to be doing laundry and decided to get up to go check on my clothes. As I began walking through the house, all of a sudden the speaker on Instagram can be heard reverberating throughout the foyer. I paused for a second and thought to myself, how weird was that, but I shrugged it off and continued on to the laundry room. Moments later, God put the answer in my spirit. How can you hear God when your life is constantly cluttered with garbage? Now, don’t think that my room is cluttered with garbage, but I do have the normal furniture pieces, a bed, dresser, tv stand, night stands and a lamp, but the foyer simply has a small table located near the front door.

The Bible says, “Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrews 12:1-2

I began pondering on this and it dawned on me, this is so true and applicable for many of us as believers. Our lives are cluttered with garbage and weights that we aren’t willing to lay aside, from the television shows that we watch to the people in our lives. A few years ago I stopped watching Scandal, Love & Hip Hop and a bunch of other shows. Of course I had my own convictions but let’s be honest, a lot of what these shows drop in our spirits isn’t conducive to a healthy spiritual life or relationship with Christ. I one day desire to have a husband but I think it’s okay for another woman to sleep with someone else’s, I want to be an example unto other young women but I can support another degrading herself, how does that work?

Music also has a huge affect on our spirits, our emotions and our life styles. There have been studies that prove this. “Those who listen to heavy metal and rap have higher rates of delinquent activity, such as drug and alcohol use, poor school grades, arrest, sexual activity, and behavior problems than those who prefer other types. They are also more likely to be depressed, think suicidal thoughts, inflict self-harm, and to have dysfunctional families,” (Kent, 2006). Now I won’t act holier than thou and act as if I don’t still like ratchet songs from time to time, but I’m very aware of the words being disseminated and the message being sent. However, many of us don’t have that discernment. Now, one artist I DO NOT, by any means, like is the artist Future. I know over the past couple of years he has blown up among audiences around the country. He even went on tour with Drake this past year. People always ask, “why don’t you like him?” Well here’s my honest answer, I think his music perpetrates and promotes nothing but drugs, sex and foolery. The same guy who says that God is blessin’ all the trap n*ggas. Seriously sir, how dare you associate God’s name and character with such activities? Moreover, Future’s music is filled with the exact same spirits he’s battling; ones I’m not willing to freely let into my life.

As it says in the bible verse above, these are weights that so easily ensnare us, they come in unexpectedly and undetected. You may not be attuned to the practices of the enemy but the Word tells us, “The thief comes o steal, kill and destroy….” John 10:10 The thief is the enemy, the devil. His intentions are to come in and disrupt your life through every open portal and it just so happens, these are some of the most accessible avenues.

Proverbs 4: 25-27 says, “Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you. Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure. Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.”

Be aware of these shows and music that has access to your life. You may not think it affects you but seeds are being planted and if watered, they can manifest into you life. That’s why we are to ponder or think carefully about the path of our feet.

Family, friends and relationships can carry the most baggage. Y’all know the baggage I’m talking about too. The friend that always has baby daddy issues, the family members that want to tell you how to live your life but can’t never keep a job or has a new boyfriend or girlfriend every other month, and the relationships where he wants all the wife qualifications but he still has yet to mention marriage.

Ecclesiastes 3:1, 6

To everything there is a season,

A time for every purpose under heaven

A time to seek, and a time to lose;

a time to keep, and a time to cast away;

People come with different baggage for various reasons but it’s not our job to judge them or try to fix it. However, we must steer clear of it so as to not let it seep into the delicate parts of our lives that we’re still working on. God is the ultimate fixer! I do encourage you that as believers it is our duty to pray for these people and somehow separate from the baggage. It doesn’t make you somehow better than them but it’s about the journey God has set before you and everyone doesn’t need to come along.

Last sin I want to address that ensnares us is masturbation and porn. I personally believe the two go hand in hand, which is why I have coupled the two together. Sis, if this is you, STOP immediately. I’ve been there, done that. The doors and portals that you are opening to the enemy are astronomical. These demons and satanic spirits not only affect you physically, but emotionally and spiritually as well. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God;” Masturbation is not only defiling God’s temple but you’re also sinning against yourself. “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body,” according to 1 Corinthians 6:18. I used to think doing it here and there, in which I would also watch porn, was okay. But little did I know how the enemy was using that to his advantage. I began dealing with a spirit I hadn’t exposed myself to or so I thought. I reached out to my spiritual mentor and we began talking and I was immediately convicted about where this spirit had entered. It was conceived through my time of masturbation and I’d let it in with open arms. Honestly, it was overwhelming to say the least at first because I couldn’t believe how I’d been so blind to the schemes of the enemy and how I’d let myself fall victim to the lies.

The devil is the father of lies, he’s always on the prowl searching for whom he may devour and Word tells us this very thing. However, we serve a mighty, just, loving, and forgiving God. 1 John 1:9 says. “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

You must acknowledge your sin and repent. Don’t say you want to repent and God delivers you, then you go right back to your same filth. Don’t do it sis. Desperately seek God for deliverance from this and NEVER go back. Jesus died on the cross for us to be forgiven. There is no condemnation in Christ.

I never write about things that haven’t personally affected me, so I want you to know that I’m praying for you. Don’t ever let the enemy make you feel guilty or shameful for your sin. We’ve all sinned and come short of the glory of God but by His stripes we are healed!

I pray this blog post helps someone to be delivered in some way or another from the weights and sins that so easily ensnare us. Be encouraged and know that Christ loves you!

Devotional 03/12/2017

“so that we ourselves boast of you among the churches of God for your patience and faith in all your persecutions and tribulations that you endure, which is manifest evidence of the righteous judgment of God, that you may be counted worthy of the kingdom of God, for which you also suffer;”
‭‭II Thessalonians‬ ‭1:4-5‬ ‭NKJV

The current suffering and tribulation of this time is not to be counted as a lost, or even a time to cower from the Word of God. You see, your patience and faith may be tried and tested but assuredly the perseverance and endurance built during this time shall be stronger than it was before. The Bible tells us that we go from glory to glory, faith to faith. Paul says that they boasted to other churches about endurance of the believers at Thessalonica. The Thessalonians kept their faith through the testing of trials. They were even said to be of the poorest Christian converts during that time.

Yes, suffering hurts! Yes, trials seem unbearable at times! However, it’s about the glory that God will receive! Enduring until the end, justly, we shall see the righteous right hand of God! He counts your sufferings as righteous and He repays you for it. Whether you see it in this life, the next or both, you shall see it. I’m a firm believer that Christ is an unbelievably loving and gracious Lord. You never have to worry about what it looks like because He promised to never leave us nor forsake us!

Remember that the teacher is sometimes quiet during the test. Not that they don’t care we may be struggling, but it’s a test for a reason. Keep your eyes stayed on Jesus and I promise He will soon reveal His glory through your suffering!

Affliction

You’ve been serving God the best, so now you’re better than the rest?

You toot up your nose with disgust, yet you’re still wrapped up in lust.

Seek His face, because you’re only here by grace. 

All this sin, and you can’t see the beginning from the end.

You don’t see your value, so any man can have you.

Now all you do is groan, about how you’re all alone.

Why must I suffer? Well hasn’t your brother?

All this disobedience, sis it’s only a reflections of your ungodly vehemence.

Staring every chick down, trying to figure who’s fit for the crown.

Aren’t you a Christian? This isn’t a competition.

There will never be another you. Even Christ said it’s true.

He knew you before He formed you in the womb. What’s that look of gloom?

Go now and repent, I can see the torment.

He’s doing a new thing and you can’t perceive it. I promise it’s not a counterfeit.

Don’t let the world lie to you. Going back will only mean deja vu.

Don’t believe me, or do you just choose to disagree? 

Well check the wounds and scars, then I’ll give you all the memoirs.

Sin once had me bound, then I turned my life around.

Gave my life to Christ, because He was the ultimate sacrifice.

Molding me preciously,

I am The Crowned Destinee.

The Unholy Courtship

A story of redemption after an unholy courtship. Holiness is always the standard and never let anyone tell you different. Whether you choose to wait until marriage to kiss your spouse or not, it is not a mandate. This story will truly bless you.

Kingdom Business

When I became saved I decided that I wouldn’t kiss my husband until my wedding day.

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Uber Chicago

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For the past week, I’ve been in Chicago, IL on vacation, pictures will be uploaded soon, and my Uber driver from my hotel to O’hare Airport was a super nice guy named Elrick. During my hour ride with Elrick we really connected. I was able to impart much of my relationship (man and woman) expertise into his life as he expressed several issues that he and his girlfriend have been experiencing.

However, as I was doing so, it struck me. How many of us have found ourselves unwilling to walk away from a relationship because of the time we’ve invested, the thought of not finding anyone better or just plain ole, “I’m in love, so I don’t want to leave him even though he person doesn’t treat me good”? Now my blog by no means is meant to give relationship advice, but I do realize that some of us may be in a relationship and/or desiring a relationship and this blog post may resonate with you the most.

Relationships are a two way street. They have the ability to enhance or devalue you. In my pursuit of a Christ-like mindset, one thing has to be at the forefront of all relationships, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

Now this sets the precedent for any relationship that I find myself entering into. I cannot see a future with a man that is a non-believer. Why, because I am rooted in my faith, which is true according to the Word of God. Additionally, one’s faith or lack thereof often lays the foundational groundwork for their morals, beliefs and processes in handling certain situations. I personally want to know that God is at the front of their life.

Now, if you’ve read my other blogs then you know that I’m not a virgin. However, practicing celibacy is an important part of my onward journey in Christ. “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God;” I Thessalonians 4:3-5

Your body is a temple and should be treated as so! Don’t allow any man to make you feel otherwise and influence you to defile your body. A man that doesn’t respect you and/or your willingness to abstain from sex until marriage just isn’t courting or marriage material. People in today’s society often regurgitate the idea that a person cannot go for an extended period of time without sex, specifically men. Well, this is a lie from the pits of hell. It’s nothing but a spirit and a lack of self-discipline! Of course when you’re constantly in tempting situations it can be difficult, but that’s why we have to use our earnest discernment, exercised through the Holy Spirit. “But solid food is for full-grown men, for those whose senses and mental faculties are trained by practice to discriminate and distinguish between what is morally good and noble and what is evil and contrary either to divine or human law.” Hebrews 5:14

You KNOW when you shouldn’t be doing something. If you’re seeking to truly live for Christ, being in a predicament that can lead to sexual immorality, you’ll quickly look for a way out. I will not say that a man who’s desired and tried to have sex with you isn’t the one or doesn’t care about you, but your expectations should be made very clear from the beginning. If you make this clear to him and he persist in trying to have sex, he probably doesn’t care about you! He should be let go of! You can’t afford to be setback in your walk with Christ. There are consequences for those actions. I know firsthand. I’ve been celibate and living for Christ then I got caught up and regretted it, because I know what is pleasing and acceptable unto God.

Love, such a beautiful thing. When we truly understand what love is and who love is, I think that makes it easier for us to love others. Love for others does not and should not come with conditions. Has God loved you under condition? No, because if so, there is nothing about any of us that would warrant His love. When in a relationship we should keep this in mind. There are days you won’t necessarily like the person you’re with, but that should not affect the love and willingness to put in the effort. Relationships require serious work! 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Keep these things in mind when entering into a courtship. Don’t be in a relationship that’s unequally yoked, sustain from sex and love unconditionally. Relationships can be a beautiful thing. However, the wrong relationship can also be detrimental. Today,  don’t be so caught up in a relationship that you lose sight of God. If the guy that you’re with doesn’t push you further to Christ, He’s probably not the one for you.

For my single ladies, sometimes it’s easier said than done but don’t be overcome by thoughts of getting old or even the lie that you’re not worthy of a good man. Realize that God’s timing is perfect. Sometimes I have to remind myself that my desire for a husband should never outweigh my desire for God. Furthermore, just because those all around me seem to be getting married or dating the guy of their dreams, that’s just not my story right now. I should be happy where God has me. Rushing into a relationship can cause it to fall apart just as fast.

Be blessed today on Valentine’s Day and know that I love you all and so does God.

Devotional 02/10/2017

“Cast me not away from Your presence and take not Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation and uphold me with a willing spirit. Then will I teach transgressors Your ways, and sinners shall be converted and return to You.” Psalm‬ ‭51:11-13‬

When God looks at your current lifestyle does He say, “well done” or “I am well pleased”? These are questions we must ask ourselves when we consider the salvation of the Lord and what it took to truly have salvation through Him! Not for a moment must we take for granted the willing spirit of God to uphold us with His righteous right hand!

Don’t mistaken this as me claiming to be the perfect or ideal Christian, however, I am in constant evaluation of myself. Sometimes to the point where God has to intervene by letting me know He’s still working on me and there are things within me He’s still revealing. 

This is why we should be in the presence of God daily, seeking out His face! Why, because He’s who makes this thing we call life possible! We have to be repentant and delivered from our transgressions so that we, the restored, can reach back and help others. Trust me when I say there was someone praying for you and I in our sin, someone planting seeds, someone simply loving us without judgment. This is how we win people over. Not with hate and judgment, but love and truth! 

First we must let the Lord do a good work within us, so that He may do a good work through us! Although, God is still doing a good work within me, I believe He’s still able to do a good work through me. 

This is true for you too. Let the Holy Spirit be your guide and voice of reason. Don’t live a life filled with iniquity drawing you further away from God, as He cannot dwell in the same place as darkness. 

Today, choose to be the light in the darkness, choose to be the restored. You never know who’s watching you or who can be delivered through your obedience. 

Praise God! “I am restored! I am redeemed! I am healed!”

Deciding Now

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Making the decision to get saved and become a true believer in Christ is a milestone many are reluctant to come too. From experience, people feel way too broken, unusable and and ineffective to become a “christian.” However, they had failed to realize that Christ hasn’t called you too perfection but yet vulnerable enough to come to Him exactly as you are. Truth is, He already knows you’re a hot mess. He knows when and how you were wounded, why you continue to sin the way you do and why you’re even considering to surrender your life to Christ. You see, the life you’ve been given was meant for divine purpose. You may not believe that but it’s true. The Lord has called us to something higher and where you currently are doesn’t fit.

I wish I could help you make sense of the things that have happened throughout your life or even find understanding in it, but I don’t have the answers. But you know who does, Christ! The Bible says, “Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him. Even so, I will defend my own ways before Him.” Job 13:15 This is the mindset that we have to have. Life isn’t guaranteed to be a smooth ride but God has promised us that, “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” The Lord has already overcome any problem or giant standing in your way. Everything you need to overcome is already within you!

Don’t get stuck in today’s troubles that tomorrow is but a figment. Give your life over to Christ today. Come just as you are.13 For “whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.” Romans 10:13 I came to Him broken, depressed, rejected, confused, etc. Don’t worry about those desires and hurts, He can and will heal you. He can change your desires and truly forgive you if you come with a willing and sincere heart. Paul was of the least of us to become a follower of Christ, but look how God used him for His glory. God has transformative power. Acts chp. 9 for reference

In my words, God is willing to step in the paint with you, He’s willing to go to battle for and with you, but only if you just let Him in. It took a long time for me to truly find God. I looked for satisfaction and fulfillment in worldly things for so long that when my mind could no longer take it, I went into a deep hole only God could bring me out of. A hole so deep that I thought I might die. I’d struggled with so many things because of things that have happened in my life; things within my control and things totally out of my control. But one thing for certain, God has never left my side. I’m forever indebted. I’m so grateful I decided to give my life over.

It’d been a long time coming and it’s honestly refreshing to know that when I go through the struggles of life, I have a friend and confidant there beside me. Some days aren’t easy no doubt but it’s worth it. Don’t be afraid to come as you are. His hand is reaching out to you. Pour your heart out and be honest with God. He can help you with that unbelief, lack of faith, sexual sins, broken relationships or whatever it may be.

He’s kept me when I couldn’t keep myself, He’s loved me when I couldn’t love myself and He’s believed in me when I couldn’t believe in myself. He’ll do the exact same for you! Please reach out if you have questions or you’re wondering what steps you have to take to surrender your life. I’m praying for you all!

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