I often watch Dr. Jamal Bryant’s periscopes and surprisingly enough they’re normally good and filled with a lot of information about what’s going on in the U.S. The below scope I hope empowers us all as believers to pray for those around the globe being denied access to the U.S., pray for the families being broken apart and pray for heavy hearts around the world. As Dr. Bryant says in his scope, we need to begin praying and using the Word to battle the spiritual warfare that’s currently ensuing.
So this past weekend, January 28th, I turned 26! I feel so blessed! I’m truly excited to see what God will be doing in my life this year specifically, and the years to come. I can tell you two years ago I went through a time period where I didn’t even think I’d see the end of the year. But when I tell you I serve an amazing, and just, and gracious, and merciful and loving God; you can search all over and never find another! I documented some of the fun moments over my weekend below. Wow, I’m 26 and God has me exactly where he wants me. When the blessings began pouring into my life, I can look up and say, “nothing but God.” Be encouraged ladies, the Lord is faithful. Live for His purpose and surely you’ll discover yours!!
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I was literally driving tonight, and the title of this blog popped into my head as I was praying for someone. The title is so powerful because in Mark chapter 5, a woman with a sickness of the blood touches the hem of Jesus’ garment and she’s immediately healed. However, that’s not even the best part. Jesus hadn’t even known that the woman touched Him, but he felt some of His power had gone. He began inquiring of His disciples as to whom had touched his garment, which He then finds is the woman with the sickness of blood. “And He said to her, “Daughter, your faith has made you well. Go in peace, and be healed of your affliction.”” Mark 5:34
This is a great segway into our topic of the evening, promiscuity. I know you’re wondering well what does this have to do with the woman with the sickness of blood? Well, her yearning to be healed from her sickness, which was manifested through her faith!So many woman have resorted to promiscuity as a means to fulfill emptiness, feel loved and to boost self-esteem. Sadly, promiscuity brings none of these hoped for attributes. As always, I write about issues that either afflict me or have once afflicted me. Although, promiscuity is no longer something I struggle with, temptation and even lust are things I’m still working on.
It was Fall of 2011 and I’d just broken up with my abusive boyfriend (that’s a story for another day) and I’d decided that I’d use my junior year making up for lost time. Being tied down to one person for the past two years who not only controlled me but caused me to miss a significant portion of my college years, was the only fuel I needed to live it up. Not realizing that I was broken and unequipped to have successful relationships, I still desired one or a piece of one. Over the next couple of years the guys would come and go, however, three were consistently inconsistently. Promiscuity had established its place in my life. I slept with different guys and carried on situationships in hopes of them one day becoming relationships. I remained single throughout my junior and senior year of college. My promiscuity revealed my low-self esteem and search to fill voids only God could fill.
I felt empty, I felt numb and I felt lonely. I was in search of something, fulfillment most of all, not even aware that it comes through Christ alone. Christ would have even solidified His role as the man in my life had I let Him. I’d opened the door to lust, temptation, sexual perversion, fornication and even masturbation. But the Bible tells us, “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18 Nevertheless, these things kept me in bondage and not once did I ever think of myself as promiscuous. The craziest part about it all, the girls I hung with in college weren’t even having sex, but me, I was proud to be the non-virgin.
You see the issue with promiscuity isn’t just the sex itself, it’s the consequences of sex outside of marriage. Aside from from the physical consequences of STD’s and out of wedlock pregnancies, the emotional, mental and spiritual affects can far outweigh the physical. Every time you lay down with someone outside of marriage, you create soul ties; the person takes apart of you in which you can never get back. “Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.”” 1 Corinthians 6:16 The worst part is the exchange of unclean spirits. You don’t know what other individuals these guys have slept with, nor do you know what things they may be dealing with internally. ““When an unclean spirit goes out of a man, he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came.’ And when he comes, he finds it empty, swept, and put in order. Then he goes and takes with him seven other spirits more wicked than himself, and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that man is worse than the first. So shall it also be with this wicked generation.”” Matthew 12:43-45
All of these things, I’ve dealt with. Trying to break soul ties and figure out why I’m dealing with issues than never presented themselves a problem in the past were definitely the hardest. To be honest, still are the hardest things I deal with from opening doors to many of these issues. Had I known the things I know now, I would have saved myself for my future husband. It would have saved me so much heartache and pain. It’s honestly one of the things in my life that made me feel the most shameful. I used to think, how would I tell my future husband about this? How would he react? You know what God revealed to me, the man He has ordained to be my husband won’t be caught up in my past because he knows he’s apart of my future.
If you’re dealing with any of this, I encourage you to seek God for deliverance. Don’t get caught up in what you think people might say. The Bible says, “Let the redeemed of the LORD say so, Whom He has redeemed from the hand of the enemy,” Psalms 107:2 There is no condemnation in Christ. He wants to heal us and redeem us. You no longer have to broken. You no longer have to give your body to different men based on “you like them” or they like you! Marriage is the standard and requirement for sex. It’s so hard to know someone on an intimate level when you’ve opened a gateway to fornication. It’s hard to separate emotions once sex is involved. It’s also harder to let someone go once sex is involved.
Step out on faith and trust God. If only you could touch the hem of His garment. No more longing to be loved, no more longing to fill voids, no more esteem issues, NO MORE! I’m not promising the walk will be easy or that it will even be a speedy process, but what I can promise you is that God sees your suffering and wants to give you peace. He’ll be with you every step of the way. If temptation comes again, He always gives us away out. “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13
I’m open to discussion or if you want to contact me personally to talk or even want me to pray for you, please let me know. There’s power in the name of Jesus. I’m hoping that my story will only be the beginning of a new start.
Sarah Jakes Robert preaches an amazing sermon from John 1:43-50. She talks about God seeing us in spite of our flaws, in spite of our skepticism. The question posed is, “Can anything good come out of this?” I encourage you to watch it and maybe your spirit will be filled with the word of God.
Do you know how often people say, “don’t settle”? I hear it so much that I feel like it’s just a reflex connotation used to dissuade people from doubt. I personally think the phrase has become so convoluted that people become confused as to whether they’re settling, within God’s will or shooting their shot a little too high.
Now to start this thing off correctly, I think we should define the meaning of settling. Settling means to sit or come to rest in a comfortable position; begin to feel comfortable or established. In my honest opinion, people have confused settling with contentment in one’s portion. Philippians 4:11-12 says, “Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.” I didn’t say it, but the Apostle Paul did, he learned to be content in whatever state! Why is it that we feel the need for more, but that need for more isn’t what’s going to spiritually edify us, benefit the body of Christ or contribute to our kingdom assignment.
Hear me loud and clear, there is nothing wrong with having dreams, goals and desires, because trust I have a list a mile long. LOL. But there is something wrong with desiring and dreaming for all the wrong reasons. But even with that, there will always be a development phase and a molding process. People don’t just wake up one day and become successful business owners, become married, become the next Lebron James or even become ministers. The Prophet Jeremiah speaks of this very process of development in Jeremiah chapter 18. He’s instructed by God to go down to the potter’s house where he sees the potter creating vessels. ““O house of Israel, can I not do with you as this potter?” says the LORD. “Look, as the clay is in the potter’s hand, so are you in My hand, O house of Israel!” Jeremiah 18:6
God realizes we’re invaluable pieces of clay without Him. We can’t live our lives focused on, “don’t settle,” or trying to appease those around us who’ve assumed we have settled. Seeking Godly counsel is so important. You shouldn’t have people speaking into and about your life that don’t truly know you, where you are currently in life, where you’re seeking to go in life and most importantly, are they speaking a word from God? I know sometimes it’s hard to consider these things when you began speaking to others about your life, because I too struggle with this. I’ve realized lately that God has been checking me. I get this conviction in my spirit like, whatever I’ve spoken over your life isn’t for the whole world to know, let them see the manifestation of me!
“Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end. There are many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless the counsel of the Lord, that shall stand.” Proverbs 19:20-21 - This is why you can’t go around listening to every Lisa, Chris and Mark!
Essentially, I don’t want any of you ladies to settle! But I also don’t want you feel compelled to move out of the position God currently has you, therefore, resetting whatever work He has began and pushing your blessing back. Don’t get wrapped up in what people may say or even think, get wrapped up in the counsel of our Lord.
I feel strongly about this topic. Since quitting my full time job and working part-time for the past few months, I feel like everyone around me has put in their mind that I’m settling and that it’s a shame I am where I am. I’d be a lie if I said it didn’t bother me to hear how some of my own family members have talked about me as if I’m a failure. However, I don’t feel the need to take the time out to explain anything to them either. God hasn’t given me that conviction and I’m perfectly fine with that. I’m trusting God with my future because He’s the one that holds it anyway. Lauren Daigle says in her song Trust in You, “There’s not a day ahead You have not seen.” How powerful is that?
Speaking from the perspective of someone that’s in their 20’s, these years can be rough and many of us are just trying to figure it out. Your journey won’t be like others but it will be your own. Embrace that and remember, “… let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” Galatians 6:9
Let me know if you have questions or any feedback. Know that I love you and I’m praying for you!!
“So David inquired of the LORD, saying, “Shall I pursue this troop? Shall I overtake them?” And He answered him, “Pursue, for you shall surely overtake them and without fail recover all. ””I Samuel 30:8 NKJV
First off, it you haven’t read the book of Samuel, I’d advise you to start ASAP! It’s one of my favorite books of the Bible.
However, the context of this verse today requires a little background. David and his troops were away when the Phillistines came and overthrew their camp. They took wives, children, valuables, animals, you name it. When David and his troops return they realize all has been taken. The men are heavy hearted and looking to their leader, David, for next steps.
In the Bible, David is said to be a man after God’s own heart. He desired God so much so that his very nature led men to see that he was different. David often sought God on the many issues of life.
So fast forward to our scripture, David is asking God should he go recover what he deems rightfully his, and the Lord replies saying he should go recover what is his and while doing so, he overtake the Phillistines without failing.
Wow, how awesome is God! I think someone of us should look at this scripture as our guide to overcoming and making decisions in regards to things we’ve lost and the things we want to pursue. Before making any decisions, the first thing David did was go to God; regardless of feelings and what others said. Let me ask you this, did you seek God void of what you think He ought to say and do? Did you ask Him before you asked anyone else?
He’s the first one we should seek in all things! He’s not only a restorer as we see here in the scripture but he’s a giver! Giver of life, joy, dreams and goals.
Pursue God in all things. Let your heart be made pure and realize that whatever God’s answer, his name goes beyond what the confines of our minds can perceive. Don’t worry about what you lost, He’s already declared that you shall recover it all.
“You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world.”
I John 4:4 NKJV
If you read the the beginning of this chapter you would see that John tells us to test the spirit of those that claim to be of God. By doing this it will provide clarity on whether or not they are of God!
But as we look into the context of our verse, it says that those of us who are of God, have overcome or prevailed over these false witnesses because He (The Holy Spirit) that is in us is greater or more powerful than he (the enemy) who is in the world.
This is so important for us to take in because sometimes we feel defeated and overpowered, not realizing that the one who is all powerful, all sovereign, lives within us! There is no way we could ever lose. You have to start activating the power that resides within you. Don’t be overcome but yet you are the overcomer. The Lord has already declared that you are the head and not the tail. Begin to speak life and authority over your life, your situation. The enemy knows the power that resides in us, which is why he tries his hardest to make us feel overcome and defeated.
Be assured in knowing that God is your rock and you’ve already been declared a conqueror.
2 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. James 1:2-4
Have you ever been in a predicament and you’re like God why me, why this time in particular? You even feel like God isn’t listening to you nor has he considered your prayers or how you may feel. Well, as we see in the verse above, count it all joy! Patience is a virtue that many of us lack in significant areas of our life. Simply put, we want things in our timing. We forget God’s timing is perfect and that He’s all knowing in when exactly we need something.
Don’t get weary during trials and let your faith begin to diminish. Trials are a testing of your faith, whereby your faith is expected to grow stronger. During this time not only is your faith being reinforced but you’re learning patience. Patience you’ve never had and clearly patience you’re in need of. The Bible tells us to let it have its perfect work, meaning a flawless work that we may be refined and in lack of nothing.
This can only be done through the working of Christ. This can’ be done in your own will. You can’t build your own patience because if you could, you wouldn’t be worrying God for what you thing you need and want right now. Trust what He’s doing in and through you. Let that perfect patience be manifest in your life.
Love you all!
I heard this the other day and it spoke volumes to me, “separation is a sure sign of elevation.”
Several months ago, I felt a tugging at my heart to relinquish the “reverence” I’d placed on certain relationships in my life. Honestly, I was reluctant to give it a try. I mean, who would I talk too, who would I confide in, who would simply be there? However, questioning God doesn’t get anyone much of anywhere, so I followed my heart.
For me, I finally left the guy I’d been on and off with for the past three and half years. Truly one of my best friends who knows more about me than most. It broke my heart to know that I finally had to let him go. At one point, I found so much solace, peace and certainty in just talking to him. Nonetheless, in the end those feelings had begun waning away.
Furthermore, my best friends started hearing from me less and eventually that led to them seeing me less. Seemingly, I fell out of the best friend circle, which I sensed happening anyways. There were no hard feelings as I realized we’re in different places in our lives. There are things mutually we didn’t and don’t confide in one another about anymore, as there are also struggles and joys I’ve experienced without them. And hear me when say this, I would love for them to have shared and share in some of these moments but I also know that obedience to God comes before any desire and emotion!
The past few months have felt lonelier than ever. I’ve seriously wondered if God has forgotten my needs of someone to talk too or to even hang out with on occasion. All my life I’ve been in relationships and I’ve had the same few friends. I haven’t acquired much more over the years as I felt it pointless. But, you can imagine my current thoughts on that. LOL.
But, I did a little “soul searching” and it finally came to me. We have to realize that whatever God does, is always for our good. He never takes anything without having something to replace it. The Holy Spirit never gives us a conviction that leads us wrong and that is why trusting God’s plan is so important. Some people, places and things are there for a reason and a season, and sometimes, they simply can’t go where God is taking you. 1 John 2:19 says, “They went out from us, but they were not of us; for if they had been of us, they would no doubt have continued with us: but they went out, that they might be made manifest that they were not all of us.” (KJV).
When God begins to take you to new levels in Him and He has lessons and things that He needs to impart into you, all distractions and hinderances have to be removed. Imagine this, Jesus literally wanting to walk with you, side by side, on this new journey, whatever it is you’re going. However, you’re so caught up in the people and things that you think should be with you, that you miss Him and what it is He’s trying to give to you. That’s exactly what happen to the two individuals in Luke chapter 24. Jesus was literally walking and talking with them, and because their eyes and hearts were filled with sorrow and unbelief, they missed that moment of really being with Jesus. They had not trusted that Jesus was who He said He was.
This brings me back to my original quote, “separation is a sure sign of elevation.” Let God do what he does, especially in this season. Don’t worry about what people think of you or even what they have to say. Don’t let a blessing become held up because you can’t get past “lonely.” Jesus will always be a friend indeed. He is always there with us no matter how we may feel. Maybe spending more time with Him will help those feelings of loneliness to eventually subside over time. I’m not saying you can’t desire friendships and companionship but understand that God is trying to do some amazing things in your life and if you just let Him, what’s on the other side will be far greater than you could envision. 1 Corinthians 2:9 “Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, Nor have entered into the heart of man, The things which God has prepared for those who love Him.” (NKJV)
“And Peter answered Him, Lord, if it is You, command me to come to You on the water. He said, Come! So Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water, and he came toward Jesus. But when he perceived and felt the strong wind, he was frightened, and as he began to sink, he cried out, Lord, save me [from death]! Instantly Jesus reached out His hand and caught and held him, saying to him, O you of little faith, why did you doubt? And when they got into the boat, the wind ceased.”Matthew 14:28-32 AMPC
Don’t get distracted by the winds of the roaring sea! Instead, keep your gaze on Jesus! His grace remains yet faithful even when we find ourselves wavering in faith.