You’ve been serving God the best, so now you’re better than the rest?

You toot up your nose with disgust, yet you’re still wrapped up in lust.

Seek His face, because you’re only here by grace. 

All this sin, and you can’t see the beginning from the end.

You don’t see your value, so any man can have you.

Now all you do is groan, about how you’re all alone.

Why must I suffer? Well hasn’t your brother?

All this disobedience, sis it’s only a reflections of your ungodly vehemence.

Staring every chick down, trying to figure who’s fit for the crown.

Aren’t you a Christian? This isn’t a competition.

There will never be another you. Even Christ said it’s true.

He knew you before He formed you in the womb. What’s that look of gloom?

Go now and repent, I can see the torment.

He’s doing a new thing and you can’t perceive it. I promise it’s not a counterfeit.

Don’t let the world lie to you. Going back will only mean deja vu.

Don’t believe me, or do you just choose to disagree? 

Well check the wounds and scars, then I’ll give you all the memoirs.

Sin once had me bound, then I turned my life around.

Gave my life to Christ, because He was the ultimate sacrifice.

Molding me preciously,

I am The Crowned Destinee.


The Unholy Courtship

A story of redemption after an unholy courtship. Holiness is always the standard and never let anyone tell you different. Whether you choose to wait until marriage to kiss your spouse or not, it is not a mandate. This story will truly bless you.

Kingdom Business

When I became saved I decided that I wouldn’t kiss my husband until my wedding day.

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Uber Chicago


For the past week, I’ve been in Chicago, IL on vacation, pictures will be uploaded soon, and my Uber driver from my hotel to O’hare Airport was a super nice guy named Elrick. During my hour ride with Elrick we really connected. I was able to impart much of my relationship (man and woman) expertise into his life as he expressed several issues that he and his girlfriend have been experiencing.

However, as I was doing so, it struck me. How many of us have found ourselves unwilling to walk away from a relationship because of the time we’ve invested, the thought of not finding anyone better or just plain ole, “I’m in love, so I don’t want to leave him even though he person doesn’t treat me good”? Now my blog by no means is meant to give relationship advice, but I do realize that some of us may be in a relationship and/or desiring a relationship and this blog post may resonate with you the most.

Relationships are a two way street. They have the ability to enhance or devalue you. In my pursuit of a Christ-like mindset, one thing has to be at the forefront of all relationships, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14

Now this sets the precedent for any relationship that I find myself entering into. I cannot see a future with a man that is a non-believer. Why, because I am rooted in my faith, which is true according to the Word of God. Additionally, one’s faith or lack thereof often lays the foundational groundwork for their morals, beliefs and processes in handling certain situations. I personally want to know that God is at the front of their life.

Now, if you’ve read my other blogs then you know that I’m not a virgin. However, practicing celibacy is an important part of my onward journey in Christ. “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God;” I Thessalonians 4:3-5

Your body is a temple and should be treated as so! Don’t allow any man to make you feel otherwise and influence you to defile your body. A man that doesn’t respect you and/or your willingness to abstain from sex until marriage just isn’t courting or marriage material. People in today’s society often regurgitate the idea that a person cannot go for an extended period of time without sex, specifically men. Well, this is a lie from the pits of hell. It’s nothing but a spirit and a lack of self-discipline! Of course when you’re constantly in tempting situations it can be difficult, but that’s why we have to use our earnest discernment, exercised through the Holy Spirit. “But solid food is for full-grown men, for those whose senses and mental faculties are trained by practice to discriminate and distinguish between what is morally good and noble and what is evil and contrary either to divine or human law.” Hebrews 5:14

You KNOW when you shouldn’t be doing something. If you’re seeking to truly live for Christ, being in a predicament that can lead to sexual immorality, you’ll quickly look for a way out. I will not say that a man who’s desired and tried to have sex with you isn’t the one or doesn’t care about you, but your expectations should be made very clear from the beginning. If you make this clear to him and he persist in trying to have sex, he probably doesn’t care about you! He should be let go of! You can’t afford to be setback in your walk with Christ. There are consequences for those actions. I know firsthand. I’ve been celibate and living for Christ then I got caught up and regretted it, because I know what is pleasing and acceptable unto God.

Love, such a beautiful thing. When we truly understand what love is and who love is, I think that makes it easier for us to love others. Love for others does not and should not come with conditions. Has God loved you under condition? No, because if so, there is nothing about any of us that would warrant His love. When in a relationship we should keep this in mind. There are days you won’t necessarily like the person you’re with, but that should not affect the love and willingness to put in the effort. Relationships require serious work! 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 says, Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Keep these things in mind when entering into a courtship. Don’t be in a relationship that’s unequally yoked, sustain from sex and love unconditionally. Relationships can be a beautiful thing. However, the wrong relationship can also be detrimental. Today,  don’t be so caught up in a relationship that you lose sight of God. If the guy that you’re with doesn’t push you further to Christ, He’s probably not the one for you.

For my single ladies, sometimes it’s easier said than done but don’t be overcome by thoughts of getting old or even the lie that you’re not worthy of a good man. Realize that God’s timing is perfect. Sometimes I have to remind myself that my desire for a husband should never outweigh my desire for God. Furthermore, just because those all around me seem to be getting married or dating the guy of their dreams, that’s just not my story right now. I should be happy where God has me. Rushing into a relationship can cause it to fall apart just as fast.

Be blessed today on Valentine’s Day and know that I love you all and so does God.

Devotional 02/10/2017

“Cast me not away from Your presence and take not Your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of Your salvation and uphold me with a willing spirit. Then will I teach transgressors Your ways, and sinners shall be converted and return to You.” Psalm‬ ‭51:11-13‬

When God looks at your current lifestyle does He say, “well done” or “I am well pleased”? These are questions we must ask ourselves when we consider the salvation of the Lord and what it took to truly have salvation through Him! Not for a moment must we take for granted the willing spirit of God to uphold us with His righteous right hand!

Don’t mistaken this as me claiming to be the perfect or ideal Christian, however, I am in constant evaluation of myself. Sometimes to the point where God has to intervene by letting me know He’s still working on me and there are things within me He’s still revealing. 

This is why we should be in the presence of God daily, seeking out His face! Why, because He’s who makes this thing we call life possible! We have to be repentant and delivered from our transgressions so that we, the restored, can reach back and help others. Trust me when I say there was someone praying for you and I in our sin, someone planting seeds, someone simply loving us without judgment. This is how we win people over. Not with hate and judgment, but love and truth! 

First we must let the Lord do a good work within us, so that He may do a good work through us! Although, God is still doing a good work within me, I believe He’s still able to do a good work through me. 

This is true for you too. Let the Holy Spirit be your guide and voice of reason. Don’t live a life filled with iniquity drawing you further away from God, as He cannot dwell in the same place as darkness. 

Today, choose to be the light in the darkness, choose to be the restored. You never know who’s watching you or who can be delivered through your obedience. 

Praise God! “I am restored! I am redeemed! I am healed!”

Deciding Now


Making the decision to get saved and become a true believer in Christ is a milestone many are reluctant to come too. From experience, people feel way too broken, unusable and and ineffective to become a “christian.” However, they had failed to realize that Christ hasn’t called you too perfection but yet vulnerable enough to come to Him exactly as you are. Truth is, He already knows you’re a hot mess. He knows when and how you were wounded, why you continue to sin the way you do and why you’re even considering to surrender your life to Christ. You see, the life you’ve been given was meant for divine purpose. You may not believe that but it’s true. The Lord has called us to something higher and where you currently are doesn’t fit.

I wish I could help you make sense of the things that have happened throughout your life or even find understanding in it, but I don’t have the answers. But you know who does, Christ! The Bible says, “Though He slay me, yet will I trust Him. Even so, I will defend my own ways before Him.” Job 13:15 This is the mindset that we have to have. Life isn’t guaranteed to be a smooth ride but God has promised us that, “These things I have spoken to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” The Lord has already overcome any problem or giant standing in your way. Everything you need to overcome is already within you!

Don’t get stuck in today’s troubles that tomorrow is but a figment. Give your life over to Christ today. Come just as you are.13 For “whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.” Romans 10:13 I came to Him broken, depressed, rejected, confused, etc. Don’t worry about those desires and hurts, He can and will heal you. He can change your desires and truly forgive you if you come with a willing and sincere heart. Paul was of the least of us to become a follower of Christ, but look how God used him for His glory. God has transformative power. Acts chp. 9 for reference

In my words, God is willing to step in the paint with you, He’s willing to go to battle for and with you, but only if you just let Him in. It took a long time for me to truly find God. I looked for satisfaction and fulfillment in worldly things for so long that when my mind could no longer take it, I went into a deep hole only God could bring me out of. A hole so deep that I thought I might die. I’d struggled with so many things because of things that have happened in my life; things within my control and things totally out of my control. But one thing for certain, God has never left my side. I’m forever indebted. I’m so grateful I decided to give my life over.

It’d been a long time coming and it’s honestly refreshing to know that when I go through the struggles of life, I have a friend and confidant there beside me. Some days aren’t easy no doubt but it’s worth it. Don’t be afraid to come as you are. His hand is reaching out to you. Pour your heart out and be honest with God. He can help you with that unbelief, lack of faith, sexual sins, broken relationships or whatever it may be.

He’s kept me when I couldn’t keep myself, He’s loved me when I couldn’t love myself and He’s believed in me when I couldn’t believe in myself. He’ll do the exact same for you! Please reach out if you have questions or you’re wondering what steps you have to take to surrender your life. I’m praying for you all!

Follow The 4U Movement

Hey everyone!!!! Please join and subscribe to my sister in Christ, Kiarra’s website and monthly Bible study! Although, February has begun you still have time!! Her website is for those looking to also subscribe to her amazing blog!! It’s a great opportunity to be among other like minded women in Christ!!

Devotional 02/07/2017

Please take a couple of minutes out your day to read today’s devotional from Daughters of the King called, Frame your world. It’s important to remind ourselves who we are as God has declared. We are the very utterances of our mouths and life and death are in the power of the tongue! Speak life, speak victory! The Lord has given us the ability to trample over serpents and scorpions and no harm shall come to us. SPEAK with AUTHORITY! You are who God says you are!

Jacob’s Song

If you need something to uplift and fill your spirit, I encourage you to watch/listen to this song. It speaks so much to my own life and the uphill battles I’ve fought. God is so awesome! He’ll never let us go, so don’t ever let Him go! He can truly save you and transform your life in ways you never imagined possible. “I’m no longer the same.”

Disobedience, yeah it cost

Since beginning this blog, it has helped me to get free from some of the things I’ve been battling or even bringing some of them to light. But I realize that by trying to help others get free, the enemy is bringing much resistance. He’s like a spiteful ex that tries to throw all your past mistakes in your face. Better yet, he’s like the ex that tells you, “no one will ever love you like I do,” all while having been emotional and mentally abusive since you let your guard down. The nerve!

There have been days I’ve felt so heavy spirited and I just wanted to give up. In those times I literally have to speak over myself and lay hands on myself just to make it through the day! I’m so thankful to have people in my life that can not only speak a word into my life but are real prayer warriors. I know some days if it weren’t for them, I don’t know where exactly I’d be.

Moving into this year I was battling anxiety on a whole other level. The enemy was attacking my mind in such a way that I forgot how to fight for a moment. However, that eventually subsided through prayer and revelation. But you know when you rid yourself of one spirit is comes back with more following suit. Currently, I’m battling a spirit of inadequacy, uncertainty, confusion and loneliness. For me, I believe I gave the enemy a door to come and disrupt my life; disobedience! Blatant disobedience on my part, although, I believe there are some other factors. Disobedience to me is knowingly acting out of the will of God and committing sin, which can bring curses, ailments and even death.

The LORD will send on you curses, confusion and rebuke in everything you put your hand to, until you are destroyed and come to sudden ruin because of the evil you have done in forsaking him. Deuteronomy 28:20

We can’t just disobey God and think that there are no consequences for our actions. Who are we to think so highly of ourselves? To be honest, we aren’t much of anything without God! My good friend and prayer partner Chelsea revealed that verse to me and my God did it speak to me. I was sitting there racking my brain trying to figure out where this attack came from. But, there it was, right there in the Bible.

16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. 24 And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another. Galatians 5: 16-18, 24,25

I think it’s important to be aware of temptations that may come our way. Don’t be so quickly led by your flesh that you can’t resist the wiles of the devil. The Holy Spirit is your guide. We have to constantly die to our flesh, if not, we find ourselves sinking deeper into sin. Sin causes a rift or divide between us and God. He cannot inhabitant where darkness also resides. The Lord is our sustainer and there is never not a moment when he hasn’t made provision to get out of our sin.

Don’t suffer because of blatant sin and disobedience. Ask God for his forgiveness and earnestly repent for your sin. Don’t turn back to your sinful ways and be sincere in your repentance. You don’t have to live up under the curse of sin but yet you can live through Christ’s freedom. Seek Him today and be freed from your sin and lusts of the flesh. It may not be easy but it will definitely be worth it. Salvation, freedom and grace are before you. I encourage you to take a hold of it today!

Please let me know if you need prayers for anything.